Making Church a Joyful Experience: Tips for Talking to Your Kids About Coming to Church

As parents, we want to instill values, build community, and share our faith with our children. Attending church is a wonderful way to do just that! However, sometimes getting kids excited about going to church can be a challenge. Whether it's battling Sunday morning grumbles or navigating wiggly little ones during the service, here are some tips to help make church a positive and engaging experience for your whole family:

1. Start the Conversation Early and Often:

Don't wait until Sunday morning to talk about church! Weave conversations about faith and church into your everyday life.

• Share Your Own Enthusiasm: Let your kids see that you value attending church. Talk about what you enjoy – the music, the message, the fellowship, or a specific activity.

• Read Bible Stories Together: Introduce familiar Bible stories and characters. This will give your children a foundation for understanding the lessons and stories they hear at church.

• Pray Together: Include your children in your personal prayers. Ask them what they'd like to pray for, and model how to express gratitude and seek guidance.

2. Make it Age-Appropriate:

Tailor your explanations to your child's age and understanding.

• Younger Children: Focus on the sensory experiences. "We're going to sing songs, see our friends, and hear a story!" Keep it simple and positive.

• Older Children: Engage them in deeper conversations. Explain the purpose of church – worship, learning about God, and connecting with others. Allow them to ask questions and voice their opinions.

3. Focus on the Positives:

Highlight the fun and engaging aspects of church.

• Children's Ministry/Sunday School: Emphasize the exciting activities and learning opportunities available in children's programs.

• Friendship and Community: Talk about seeing friends and making new ones. If they're hesitant, arrange to meet a friend at church or introduce them to someone new.

• Special Events: Promote upcoming church events like holiday celebrations, picnics, or service projects.

4. Prepare in Advance:

Avoid Sunday morning stress by preparing ahead of time.

• Choose Outfits the Night Before: Minimize morning decision fatigue by laying out clothes the previous evening.

• Pack Snacks (if Allowed): A small, quiet snack can help keep little ones content during the service. Check with your church about any restrictions.

• Arrive Early: This allows time to settle in, greet friends, and avoid feeling rushed.

5. Be Patient and Understanding:

Remember that it takes time for children to adjust to church.

• Expect Wiggles and Whispers: It's normal for young children to have difficulty sitting still and staying quiet. Be prepared to gently redirect their attention.

• Don't Be Afraid to Step Out: If your child becomes overly disruptive, step out of the service for a few minutes to calm them down. Many churches have designated "cry rooms" for this purpose.

• Celebrate the Small Victories: Praise your child for good behavior and effort. Acknowledge that attending church can be challenging, but it's worth it.

6. Lead by Example:

Your attitude towards church will greatly influence your children.

• Show Respect: Demonstrate reverence during the service.

• Engage Actively: Participate in singing, praying, and listening to the sermon.

• Reflect on the Message: Discuss the sermon or Bible reading with your children after the service.

Choose a Church That Welcomes Families!

At ISJ Academy, we believe that church should be a welcoming and enriching experience for the whole family. Our churches Immanuel Lutheran Church and St. James Lutheran Church strive to create a warm and inclusive environment where children feel loved, valued, and connected to their faith. 

By implementing these tips, you can help your children develop a lifelong love for church and a deeper connection to their faith. Remember, the goal is to create a positive and meaningful experience that will enrich their lives for years to come.